People often dispute whether or not humility is even a virtue, feeling that pretending you are worse than others is a type of fatuous dishonesty. But humility isn't about being below others, it is about being below the ideal standard, realizing we all have much to learn and that we can learn from anyone. Inherent in the view that humility is dishonesty is the view that life is a sort of competition, where the only contestants are whoever else is in the room. But being humble means taking a wider view: that the person you are and the ideal person you could be still don't coincide: it's not false modesty, it's honest endeavor. Without humility, it's virtually impossible to be attentive -- we are too busy thinking about what we will say next.