Now, THAT’S Stupid

You can’t be pretty, because
There’s someone prettier?

That’s stupid

You’re a lousy father, because
You raise your voice?

That’s kind of stupid

I mean, why try?
You failed when you tried before, right?

That’s really stupid

But, you counter, didn’t Einstein say
“Madness is trying the same thing over and over
And expecting a different result?”

Yes, he did
But he was referring to controlled experiments
Not life
Which is the ultimate uncontrolled experiment

How would I define ‘madness’, then?

Real madness
Is when you think you can control any part of reality
Other than yourself
Or that you can control yourself outside the limits
You’ve been given to work with

You think you can’t be a parent?
You can’t be a partner?
You can’t be a writer?

That’s really stupid
You become a parent by parenting
A partner by partnering
And a writer by writing

How do you do all that?
Or any of it?

Like any of us do:
The process of trial
And terror

You’re afraid?

That’s not stupid

But

It’s worth overcoming

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6 Thoughts to “Now, THAT’S Stupid

    1. Thank you Deborah.

      I have three beautiful daughters, and this was originally spurred by a memory I had of us eating out one night and my eldest daughter developing an immediate, intense dislike of a pretty girl she did not know who happened to be eating there at the same time.

      She said, “no one would think I’m pretty with her here,” and I thought (but didn’t say) that’s pretty stupid, (the part I did say) you are beautiful anywhere you go.

      And she still is.

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