“not knowing” is possibly
the most misunderstood concept
we attempt to use
people will say
you should have known
but you missed the signs
when relationships turn out bad
this is often called
“20/20 hindsight”:
it is the illusion of control
retroactively applied
the argument is that
because person a is analogous to person b;
or because person a behaved x way in the past,
we should have foreseen with perfect clarity
that great unknown – ‘the future’
but the primary feature
of what we do not know
is that we do not know it
we can only guess
use our instincts
do our best
but we must know
that not only
do we ‘not know’
we
‘cannot know’










