He thought they’d had, for them,
A quite good day.
He took the garbage out
Before she asked, complimented
Her on the new hair style, and
Listened for some time after
Inquiring as to her day

He tried to make eye contact as
She was taking unusable things out
If the refrigerator and moving them
To the garbage can, smiling on
Occasion to show his sympathy with
The vicissitudes of that day’s battle

He commented on how selfless she
Always was, and how people took
Advantage, sometimes; as she finished
Drying her hands after washing them,
He lightly placed his hands on her shoulders

Whereupon she recoiled, turning at
Once to pass that off as a gesture of
Busy procedure on to the next task, while he
Realized with the first dim realization of
A new forever that
What used to be good enough for her

Wasn’t good enough any more

When The Old Things Don’t Work Anymore

The old jokes do not make him laugh
The old dress doesn’t make him look
The old him was all into her
The lapse of time was all it took

The vanity she entertained
The love she thought forever true
The hollowness we come to see
In who we are
And all

We do

Common Thoughts #6 – Friends

There is an age where boys and girls are friends
Before the madness comes, in puberty;
When differences do not seem so remote
Acceptance is their common currency

But years turn into hormones, and we set
Ourselves apart in gender mystery:
And kids who once spent hours off alone
Walk by each other, like they do not see

And some say then, that friends we cannot be,
For sexual desire is too strong:
And though a boy and girl may really try,
Their thoughts turn to attraction before long

I think this theory’s stupid, and here’s why:
I know attraction’s real, and we all feel it –
But banks all have the money we desire,
That doesn’t mean we all go try to steal it

To say we can’t be friends because of sex
Is patently untrue; we just don’t try.
Which is a shame; we miss out on a lot –
With most of us not ever knowing


not knowing

“not knowing” is possibly
the most misunderstood concept
we attempt to use

people will say
you should have known
but you missed the signs
when relationships turn out bad

this is often called
“20/20 hindsight”:
it is the illusion of control
retroactively applied

the argument is that
because person a is analogous to person b;
or because person a behaved x way in the past,
we should have foreseen with perfect clarity
that great unknown – ‘the future’

but the primary feature
of what we do not know
is that we do not know it

we can only guess
use our instincts
do our best

but we must know
that not only
do we ‘not know’
‘cannot know’

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It seems she’s having second thoughts
And third thoughts
And fourth thoughts

About decisions she has made
And unmade
And remade

And everything that she desired
And longed for
And struggled for

Turns out, it all came at a price
And she might want
Her money back

Taken In

He took you in:
He gave you a safe place to stay,
To get your bearings, calm your head,
And make decisions you had needed long.
It gave you both a way
To travel through the darklands of the past,
And gather strength again
Because of the space in the time he took you in.

In time, you took him in:
You let him past the guards set up to keep
You safe from all the harm that came before —
When sharp abuse rained down
Like storms that sweep the forest in the night.
It felt both wrong and right,
A fair trade but an unease in your soul;
But you gave up the ideals of your youth
And took him in.

And though the reasons all made sense,
And there was good along with all the bad,
There was no way to know
The bed of safety that he promised
Lay beneath a blanket of made of lies,
And that there was another way
You hadn’t thought of that

He took you in